It’s so easy to dismiss. That’s why we are all guilty. Whether it’s something your kid has said for the hundredth time, a conversation with someone who only seems to play repeat on the same ole issue, or just complacency you’ve developed towards life and all its drama in general.
Today I want to discuss acknowledgment. In the event your child recognizes this behavior then you have hurt their feelings. If you can’t set boundaries, help your friend/family by being empathetic or just listening with intent, then you are becoming callous. And if you have succumbed to the fact that “dismissal” destination regards all things life, then your heart needs some jumpstarting. The typical every day exhaustions are the dismissals we should work on. What we allow dismissal to engage will then begin to spill over.
I do not ever want someone to think that I do not hear them. Really see them. Believe their hurts and worries. Praise alongside when they are joyful. Because my darlin, I need that. I long to be heard. Seen. Validated in ways. Not kicked down when I am at a peaceful place.
Our words matter, as do our actions. Realize that in order to be on the positive receiving end we must be willing to give genuinely in return. Give your love, not your dismissal. Give your time, not just your posture. The most amazing thing will happen. Your bitter heart will change. Then you can spill that out onto others in the most beautiful of ways.
Let’s let dismissal have its place. School recess and end of day bellringing. Not in our daily walk, spoken or not, exposing our voice to the world.