I have struggled with this for years as many others I know have as well. We either throw our hands up in despair unsure how to engage or come in helicopter style to intervene for whatever is ailing our children. This doesn’t stop just because your child hits a certain milestone or age. I can attest to this with having 2 out of the house now. Mom still needs to be able to know and do everything while at the same time allow them to make their own way through life. It is honestly an impossible situation. You make yourself crazy thinking “am I doing enough”, versus “am I enabling”.
If only we didn’t pick ourselves apart when it came to our parenting.
If only we gave ourselves the grace, we offer to them and others.
There will never be an exact or even poetical answer. You can only do your best. And that is what you teach those kids to do as well. Life is the best teacher regardless of all our preaching. Tonight, I will make myself believe this sentiment as I worry about the constant evolving issues that surround all 3 of my kids (in completely different hemispheres). There really is no rest for the weary ya’ll.
What issues do you wrestle with?